I’m not sure where we were living, probably the projects in San Pedro… or if I was two or three… but I see a dark hallway with steps. This memory came to me the way so many of my family
When self care fails and what can help
There is so much discussion about self care on the internet that it can really confuse us. In my work over many years, I have often found myself clarifying for women that while the healthy eating, the favorite show, the
On Managing Deep Pain
The other day my good friend was surprised when I told her that sometimes I get, “I want to die” low. And her surprise, surprised me. I thought well, yes, I have experienced deep pain and learned to move through
The Healing Power of Holding
(I wrote this ages ago for the Inner bonding website, and just realized I never posted it here. It is still just as essential, so I share it with all of you in the hopes you will find your ways
Shark! How understanding brain biology helps us heal
So much changes when we understand what happens in the brain when we are overwhelmed, stressed, and triggered. This summer, while swimming in the warm, gentle waves of Maui’s Kamaole Beach, I came to a stretch where there were no swimmers
Embracing the Seasons of Life
While we have yet to see many traditional signs of Autumn here yet, the heat waves are bringing the familiar delicious beach weather and the signs for pumpkin spiced ‘this’ and ‘that’ are everywhere…so of course I am thinking about seasons.
Who is parenting your child?
Lately it has become even more apparent to me that parenting has less to do with what we say or do, but rather where we are coming from when we do. The other day my son Lucas who sprained his
The Bigger Picture: Keeping our Children Close
I am really enjoying my re-read of Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Mate’s book, Hold Onto Your Kids. In this book, they describe how children’s excessive attachment to peers sabotages their development. What our children really need, they say, is a
A Missing Key to Building Children’s Self-Esteem
A client asks, “How can I help my child have good self esteem, when I don’t?” The fact that she can recognize that this is a problem is the first step! So often, parents, particularly those that have personal histories
Embracing vulnerability; what conscious pregnancy is teaching me about opening our hearts
The thin veil on emotions that one experiences while pregnant is a divine gift. I have experienced this pregnancy as a time of great shedding; shedding old fears (what if, what if, what if), shedding old limiting beliefs (I can’t