Living Free- the beginning

For years now, we have known that my son’s middle school years would be a time to dophoto-33 something different. My husband with his PhD in Education and my experience as a school social worker and counselor, led us both to feel the pressure cooker of intense peer dynamics is a social experiment resulting in limited educational preparation that we could better address as a family.  That said, given our backgrounds, we also honor anyone who chooses middle school, as we know depending on the child and family it can be the right fit.

This ‘Living Free’ series however, is going to be about our decision to step outside of ‘the box’ and do what we always do as a family and individually, connect and reconnect to our essential nature.  This, we decided is the foundation for life that we want our children to be rooted in.  We are not rejecting school (my husband is an educator and we know most teachers have beautiful intentions and do much good), we are exploring what it means to live freely and be alive in all ways, ways that we cannot experience in the same space five days a week.

For many years, I have been sharing with individuals and families, strategies for living simply, free from dogma and limitations, tuned into heart/intuition and spiritual connection.  This led to conscious parenting, gentle discipline, homeschooling/life learning, limited media, lots of nature outings, etc. And yet, like everyone else in modern society, I kept finding myself overwhelmed with busyness. What would start out as a few fun activities for the kids would become obligations and over scheduling in a nanosecond, limiting connecting activities like family dinner times and increasing overall stress which would increase parenting and relationship challenges.

So after years of homeschooling classes and activities galore, we are doing something radical in today’s parenting landscape.

We have stopped all activities.

(With the exception of Lucas’ soccer, a commitment to his team we felt we needed to honor)

At first, it seems we are just saying NO to the overwhelm, the craziness, the limitations…

but as we hung out together on our five week Northwest road trip, we began to see more clearly what we are saying YES to.

For thousands of years, this time in a young man’s life was a time to deepen his sense of self, his responsibility, courage, strength, to find his place in his community, and to lay a foundation for his life.  YES to this.

So we are opening to our intuition/spiritual connection to step into a rites of passage inspired two years.  We’ll be connecting to the earth and learning about its intricacies by visiting national parks and sustainable farms and projects, connecting to indigenous wisdom through stories, classes and visits to reservations, and connecting to life in all forms by interviewing mentors in all fields that spark interest.  And in the midst, we’ll read good books, write, and practice our arithmetic like good citizens ;)

Because some have asked, I will share bits of our journey here and look forward to connecting with you all in this way. Here’s a bit so far:

This week, after I had been away for six days leading a Women’s retreat in Portland, we all enjoyed a happy ‘absence makes the heart so much fonder, even when you were already fond’ reunion lounging around snuggling.  Sabi, especially, gave me so many heart melting kisses and relaxed in my arms throwing his head back, saying ‘ahhh this feels so good.’ I love the freedom of a four year old.

On Thursday, we went to Crystal Cove and Lucas and I walked for an hour and a half, talking about life, with me answering some nitty gritty questions about the dark side of humanity, until he said, “okay let’s talk change the subject now” and we moved on to politics and technology. He loved talking so much that we walked much further than planned. We stopped to notice the little catfish hiding beneath rocks, sand pipers digging and the community of sea anemones the size of nickels flanking a big meteor-like boulder. I was so grateful for this unstructured time, being in this sacred moment.

Today, we all purged clothes and began to pack what will be our ‘camping suitcase.’ We have color coordinated outfits (those who know me will be shocked at these words) for simplicity, books, and art supplies, that will stay in our suitcase. So all we will need to do is wash clothes in between adventures.  The plan is that we will have travel adventures and interviews Monday-Wednesday and be home Thursday-Sunday, with occasional longer trips here and there.  I always envisioned living abroad during this time, but since that did not occur, unplugging and adventuring seems the next best thing!

Next week, we will meet friends in Kings Canyon National Park. More on that and everything else,later!






7 comments to Living Free- the beginning

  • Amy

    We have been similarly focused this summer.
    We moved to the canyon and have been enjoying that. Let me know if you are up for hanging out.
    Love and Laughter,

  • Kate McPeak-Man

    Oh Sylvia, this sounds so right!!

  • Sylvia

    I’ve noticed a radiance in you lately! Yes of course, let’s connect soon, in between adventures :)

  • Sylvia

    Thank you Kate :) It certainly is ‘right’ for us, for now!

  • Kelly

    I LOVE THIS!! I can’t wait to hear about your adventures. xo

  • Sylvia

    absolutely! you know L will be giving you plenty of details!! xoxox

  • Giulia

    I love this so much. I’ve been ruminating on this idea for my boys when they get to their middle school years. Allowing them to satiate their curiosity about the world and their place in it, in a way that is unique to them– rather than allowing peers and pop culture to define it for them. Keeping them close. <3

    Love and miss you, Sylvia!

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